The Complications Of Romance With Jesus

Image1The topic of “romance with Jesus” contains many more facets than I expected, and right now I feel my eyes glazing over from the research I’ve been doing. I miss my old blog, at times like this, because I could always back away from demanding topics and simply write for my own pleasure. In so doing, I could avoid the hard work of studying and thinking and wrestling with Scripture. I could gloss over difficult ideas. Or ignore them altogether in favor of writing purely for the sake of weaving words into sentences and sentences into paragraphs.

But this blog, unlike my last one, has a purpose. Rather then showcasing my creative abilities, I want to draw women away from the fads and deceptions of 21st Century evangelicalism and into Biblical Christianity. That purpose requires more energy, concentration and work than my old blog required.

Okay, so yesterday I introduced the “Jesus is my Boyfriend/Lover/Husband” theology that Beth Moore resurrected in her Living Proof Ministries Simulcast 2015 (which I do not endorse). This distortion of Ephesians 5:25-33 resurfaces periodically, offering both single women and unhappily married women promises of romantic, and sometimes sexual fulfillment.

I understand that many other bloggers have addressed various aspects of this disturbing trend, as Elizabeth Prata acknowledged in The Romanticized Jesus movement is turning women into camp followers. Like Elizabeth, I don’t want to write the same things that far more capable people have already written about this subject.

At the same time, the resurgence of the issue demands that it be discussed again. Furthermore, while I wholeheartedly agree with Elizabeth that Christ must not be regarded as the Boyfriend/Lover/Husband of any individual woman, I’m not completely satisfied with her total dismissal of Song of Solomon as being an image of Christ and the Church. That aspect of the conversation needs further investigation.

Additionally, I’ve read little of how the “romance with Jesus” theology places the emphasis on us rather than on Him. Yet that emphasis troubles  me more than anything else about the entire matter.  As with most romances, the woman becomes the central character, therefore taking the glory away from Christ. If this doesn’t disturb you, it really should! Our relationship with Christ, both collectively and individually, must revolve around Him and not around how He can meet our emotional needs.

Consequently, I feel compelled to revisit this rather unsavory topic. It is not fun, and it will take much more work than simply relaying my personal experience at trying to have a romance the Lord. I suppose it would be easier for me to drop the issue, or to write about it in a way that only skims the surface. But I can’t do that. His glory is at stake.

2 thoughts on “The Complications Of Romance With Jesus

  1. It was interesting after reading some of the articles on this subject last week and then going to church on Sunday. Every song we sang ( and we normally sing one older hymn and then the rest contemporary) sounded feminine to me. The tunes were sung in a higher note and were the type that sound like you are crooning. Sorry I don’t know all the musical words for these things. Even the older hymn was ‘The Love of God’ which has a very pretty tune. It just made me wonder if instead of it being the whole congregation, what if it were a men’s only conference. Would they have chosen to sing these songs? It occurred to me that many of these contemporary praise songs are feminine sounding. Even though the better ones don’t use romantic language they often focus more on feelings rather than doctrinal truths.


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