Declining Male Attention

LadylikeI’ll admit it: I feel flattered that men  read my blog and indicate that they like what they see. At the same time, the knowledge that they read troubles me, especially when I use this platform to teach Scripture. Don’t they realize that, by following my blog, they put me in the position of being disobedient to the Lord?

11 Let a woman learn quietly with all submissiveness. 12 I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet. 13 For Adam was formed first, then Eve; 14 and Adam was not deceived, but the woman was deceived and became a transgressor. ~~1 Timothy 2:11-14 (ESV)

Although I have absolutely no objection to a husband investigating my writing to ensure that I don’t steer their wives toward false doctrine, I hope that they stop reading once they feel assured that they can trust me to instruct their wives according to Scripture. I do have my husband read everything I write since he is my direct spiritual authority, and I’m comforted to know that my pastor occasionally checks up on me. Further, when I mention a specific ministry or event (such as Truth Remains), common courtesy dictates that I ask the men involved to read that particular post.

But as a general rule, men simply should not read The Outspoken TULIP. The knowledge that several gentlemen do read, and even follow, this blog restricts my freedom to offer ladies the teaching that I know I can give.

Women flock to teachers like Beth Moore and Joyce Meyer partly because few women write books and blogs that provide solid Biblical content. By God’s providence, a growing number of women who do actually handle His Word correctly, and obediently refuse to extend their ministry to include men, are beginning to write books and blogs that offer substantive teaching. Believe me, Christian women desperately need that wholesome alternative to the garbage that constitutes most of evangelical women’s ministry!

I may not be as skilled as Erin Benziger, Elizabeth  Prata or Michelle Lesley. I  won’t presume to consider myself equal to them in terms of teaching credentials. Nevertheless, I believe I can teach through my writing reasonably well if given the chance. As long as men regularly read my blog, however, they inhibit me from developing any teaching abilities I may have.

To be fair, men may not understand that writing wields the same spiritual authority as standing in a pulpit. But if you’ll think about it, you’ll quickly see that writers and bloggers potentially reach far more people (and consequently influence far more people) than the average pastor does. This potential sphere of influence in turn gives a writer or blogger even greater authority (numerically) than a pastor has. So, even through my blog is a different venue from a church building, writing unavoidably places me in spiritual authority any time I write about the Lord.

So I beg my brothers in Christ to read some of the many Reformed Theology blogs written by men. Leave me with the freedom to minister to women in keeping with Titus 2:3-5.  The honor of the Lord means more to me than feeling flattered that men, no matter how godly they may be, enjoy my writing. If they believe my blog glorifies the Lord Jesus Christ, I pray they’d recommend it to their wives, daughters, sisters, aunts, nieces and other women they know. That response from men would mean so much to me!

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5 thoughts on “Declining Male Attention

  1. There is nothing wrong with men learning from women. The Biblical injunction is in context of the assembly. Women are not to be in leadership or teaching roles in the assembly. But women teach men all the time! I read a lot of books by solid women teachers, and follow many blogs by women who are solid in the doctrine.


  2. Let me see if I understand this correctly. You’re exercising authority over men by instructing them not to read an article about not exercising authority over men. I think I got it.

    You’re blog is not constituted as a church, and you’re not taking up an offering. You’re never going to be invited by my pastor to preach in my church. I don’t think I’m in any danger of being called out and disciplined by my church for reading your blog. But just to be on the safe side, I’ll read an article every now and then just to make sure you’ve not run off into heresy, so that I can warn my wife and daughters if you do.


  3. So I have thought a lot about this post 🙂

    I have a few really good male friends who read my blog so that they can vet my theology and then pass it along to the women in their congregations. I don’t think for a second I am teaching these men anything, but I actually like that they are fact-checking me before recommending me to the ladies for whom they are spiritually responsible.

    My husbands reads my blog, too, and claims he learns from it (because he doesn’t want to read Jen Hatmaker’s latest facebook blatherings).

    So I don’t know…I write a lot of posts using the phrase, “Ladies, we should…” and hope that the men understand that I’m not aiming at them.

    Good thoughts!!!


    • As I said, my husband and my pastor do read my blog to make sure I’m teaching correctly, and I’m all for men screening my theology on behalf of their wives. But I know of at least one man who reads my blog regularly — someone I’ve never had any other contact with. Are there others? If so, that’s a problem.


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